Excerpt from Daily Cures, Wisdom for Healthy Aging by Connie Mason Michaelis
I have talked to hundreds of children that are trying desperately to help their parents navigate the issues of aging. In the senior industry they are known as Adult Children or AC. Our modern healthcare has created a cultural restructuring within families because we live longer. I talked to one family just today that is successfully living with three generations in one house. The daughter said, “We’re having a great time!” On the other hand, I receive calls from desperate kids that cannot cope with home management, children, careers, and care for their parents.
If you are in that situation today or foresee the likelihood, here are some things you need to know in advance. Sometimes these conversations are awkward, but how much better to discuss before the need arises---accidents and illnesses are never scheduled! Adult children need to plan a visit with their parents in order to ask questions in a nonthreatening environment. Ask and listen. If the answers are no, or I don’t know, ask if they would like some help getting organized. Here are some basic questions.
· Do you have a power of attorney for healthcare and/or finances, if there would ever be a time when you’re unable to make a decision?
· Do you currently have a financial advisor?
· Do you have a living will to ensure your healthcare wishes are known? Where do you keep it?
· Do you have a plan for your healthcare if you need long-term assistance?
This is just a starting point. Always ask about their hopes and fears. Assure them that you’ll help them create a plan that makes you both feel secure. Most of all, let them know that you’re looking forward to wonderful times in the future.
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